The Weight of Self-Judgment
As a mindfulness coach, I notice how easily we fall into patterns of being incredibly hard on ourselves. That voice of self-criticism can be relentless, pulling us deeper into doubt and judgment. Through my work with clients, I've seen how empathy breaks this cycle - not just empathy for others but the kind we need to give ourselves.
When self-criticism takes over, we need ways to climb back to solid ground. This is where mindful awareness becomes our guide. It starts with recognizing those moments when we're deepest in self-judgment and creating space to respond differently. Sometimes, the slightest shift in how we talk to ourselves can change everything.
As February brings attention to love, here are four questions to help us practice self-empathy:
When shame creeps in, where do you feel it in your body first? What sensations signal it's time to pause and breathe?
What stories do you tell yourself in your most challenging moments? Which ones are ready to be rewritten?
What would true self-acceptance look like today - not tomorrow's perfect version, but exactly as you are right now?
Think of a time you showed yourself compassion. How did it feel? What made that moment possible?
You can sit with these questions during meditation, write about them, or reflect quietly. Empathy creates connections—with others and with ourselves. It's about acknowledging where we are and meeting ourselves there without judgment.
